Safe Relationship Spaces

Safe Relationship Spaces The following article is available for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your website, as the author, the end is included. Notification of publication would be appreciated. Title: Spaces Security Relationship Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright:? 2003 by Margaret Paul URL: Word Count: 1529 Category: Reports REPORT SECURITY SPACES By Margaret Paul PhD I have had counseling individuals, couples, families and business partners for the last 35 years and have published many books on relationships and connections communication. Most young people with work, even in great difficulty at the time of the creation of consulting with me to resolve their difficulties, as they leaed to build relationships of spaces through a process called Inner Bonding (see how to download a free Inner Bonding to end of this article). In the depths of our souls we all yea for love and connection with others. This corresponds to a base of aspiration, even biological, human need. Newbos, for example, develop physically when they feel loved and deeply. As adults, we experience wrenching, soul-level loneliness when we do not have the love and significant relationship in our lives, but too often we do not have these things. Not with our parents or siblings, not with a friend, not even with a best friend. We all know that the highest intuitively experience in life is the love of sharing. However, often confuses the idea of sharing the love with the idea of love. We try to make love when you feel empty inside and share the love that you lea when first deal with love. We can not share what we do not have the procedure. I injured it trying to get love and avoid pain, resulting in inability to share the love. Until each of us to accept the full responsibility of becoming strong enough to love, we will not be able to share the love. This means the creation of Homeland Security to lea to love ourselves and take responsibility for our feelings, so we are not constantly trying to make love. Most people are afraid of rejection and abandonment, as well as domain and flame. These fears stem from childhood and the definition of the exteal value of our other, approval, rather than inteally through the eyes of spiritual truth. We will not be able to share our love for the measure to heal these fears of loss of others and loss of self. We will be unable to establish security in the relationship to share love and a safe world to live in, until you lea to create in the Security Council. Inner bonding, which is a six-step spiritual healing is a profound process of healing our fears, creating safety within, and to create spaces of the report, the space where each person feels free to be fully themselves, speak their truth and to develop their full potential. E 'possible in all relationships of love to create the connection. Family, friends, colleagues, employers and employees, who are eager to lea the skills needed to heal the blocks to connection can create reports of any space. A relationship space is the environment in which the relationship is ongoing. E 'the energy produced by the two people involved. I think this environment, this relationship of space as a real entity that both men are responsible for creation. It may be a relationship of the security sector, which is open, warm, light, and invite you, or it can be a dangerous area, which is difficult, dark, unforgiving, and full of fear. The type of environment where you place our relationship is crucial to the success - or failure. At the heart of all relationship issues is our intention. We are always choosing our intention, but most people are not aware of having a choice at all times. At present there are only two possible intentions to choose: either to avoid the painful feeling and responsibility, through some form of behavior. o The purpose of knowing and of loving others and ourselves to take full responsibility for our feelings and behavior. Each report is a system. The system is open in May and love, or controlling and unloving. Relationship systems start surprisingly fast, sometimes within minutes or days of meeting. A report of a safe space exists when two or more people who want to lea and are willing to assume full responsibility for their own personal feelings, while accepting that their energy and behavior as the other. When both individuals fully as part of an energy system, ie, it is recognized that every person of energy affects others and are willing to take responsibility for their own behavior and responses to audit the behavior of other , create a report. This area is a circle of loving energy that the results of each person the desire to lea what is more to love themselves and others. To create a relationship of one area of security, all persons who must be deeply committed to leaing to control your behavior, rather than focusing on what others are doing. Rather than give in order to avoid the discharge or attempt to get others to give up to feel safe, all on its own initiative and the other much higher, they support themselves and others to become all that can be. Many of us have spent much time in danger of spaces report. In fact, some of us have never known the relationship of one area of security, because many if not most of us have not leaed how to create an interior space while staying in love adults in mind when our fears are activated . When our fears of being rejected, abandoned, overwhelmed and control are activated, most of us have been tued into a child and immediately withdrawn for the control of leaed behavior. May we move our attention in our minds to avoid our feelings, we attack in May, guilt, defense, demand, explain, deny, judge, criticize, stop, withdraw, resist, and the same calm , are found, they become too good, and so forth. Of course, when we act in ways to control our behavior in May sparked fears of another being rejected or controlled, and that person then react in the months of May and the instruments of control, creating a vicious circle and dangerous relationship space. If, when these fears are activated, the focus is on who is to blame or who started, we do not perpetuate a space. Blame others for our fears (and for our responsiveness, unloving behavior) makes the most dangerous ever. Then the two people in connection with the end to feel bad, we believe that our pain is the result of another behavior. We are victims, helpless, stuck, and disconnected from our partners. We absolutely want the other person to see what they are doing that (we think) is causing our pain. We believe that if the other person understands it, you change - and we exhaust ourselves trying to understand how to understand. Over time, one is in a non-space creates distance between the people involved. When not creating a safe space in the word of our complete, honest truth about ourselves, the joy between us gradually dies. And the more we keep our deepest feelings and experiences, our connection becomes shallower. Our intimacy crumbles. In friendships, marriages and relationships, our joy, vitality, creativity and the loss to give each of us parts of ourselves, in an attempt to feel safe. In romantic relationship, a passion for hair. Superficiality, boredom, fighting, and apathy take its place. We try valiantly to understand what went wrong. But too often, we ask, "What am I doing wrong?" O "What wrong? "rather than to investigate the health of the relationship of space itself. Only when you look at the space, we see what we have done to create any dangerous space. Double the fear of loss of waste and loss of oneself by eating from the other are the cause of our unloving, reactive behavior. These fears are deeply rooted. They can not be healed or overcome by the love of someone else. On the contrary, we must heal these fears that we can share love - give and receive love - with each other. The key to doing this is to lea how to create a space where we can work together and overcome our fears of rejection and flames. This is a process, not an event. Practicing the six steps of the process of Inner Bonding creates progressively inteal security, as we lea to take personal responsibility for our feelings and behavior. Inner Bonding guides us in defining ourselves inteally through the eyes of our spiritual direction, rather than exteally through the performance, aesthetics, and others' approval. In addition, it provides a clear process for conflict resolution that can be used in any relationship difficulties. Instead of love weaken with time, love deepens daily, supporting each person in the sacred path of evolution of 'soul. The two people who are willing to lea to create their own sense of safety can also lea how to create a safe space in which relations of intimacy and passion and prosper their love will last. Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You? "" Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By My Kids? "" Your Healing Solitude "," Inner Bonding ", and" Do I Have To Give Up Me to be loved by God? "Visit his site for a FREE Inner Bonding course or mailto: margaret@innerbonding.com